The “Moonies” is known in the Philippines for its “mass marriages”. If you recall in the early 1990s, thousands of Filipinos and Koreans were married in these ceremonies. I remember watching an episode of Noli De Castro’s Magandang Gabi Bayan detailing this event. What’s controversial about the said marriages is the fact that the couples were “arranged” to be married.
I know four Filipinas here who got married through such an arrangement. Three of them have been married for more than seven years now while the other for almost a decade. Two of them would admit to having married their husbands through the Unification Church (the other two would not even talk about it). AFAIK, the arranged marriages is one of the reasons that the Philippine government requires all Filipino citizens marrying foreigners to attend a guidance and counseling service by the CFO (Commission on Filipino Overseas).
We sometimes hear of women being abused by their Korean husbands. Luckily, all four of the Filipinas I know who married the “Moonies” way have told me that their husbands “love” them despite the fact that they didn’t know each other when they got married. However, one of them has a friend who has been married for years and has been suffering from physical abuse from her husband.
Financial difficulty is one of the primary reasons that motivated them to this kind of marriage. However, it should be known that not all Koreans are rich. I once met a girl here who taught that the man she married has money. Turned out he’s a taxi driver living with his parents. The girl said she accepted the offer to an arranged marriage as she got tired of waiting for an opportunity to work in Japan as an entertainer. I’m not sure if she really got divorced like she wanted since we lost communication.
I don’t know enough Filipinas who had an arranged marriage for me to conclude whether this type of marriage mostly end in failure. I only know four and so far their marriage life is fine. Those thinking of marrying this way should know that life in Korea is not a bed of roses. Being a Korean wife means duties. Duty to your husband, children and HIS family.
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Most of the Filipina I came across here in Gwangju had an arranged marriage. So far I got to know only several cases of abusive husbands. Most of Pinays are economically engaged and productive since they have English skills and industrious as well which I believe is a source of happiness for both espouses since they don’t have to be dependent on each other. There are even cases where a Pinay would earn more than the husband. Some even work in hospitals and in other government service agencies. The arranged marriage for some worked fine since it is here in Korea where they got employed which otherwise would not be possible in the country because of limited job opportunities.
and if the korean is rich, he will never never marry the filipino, ano sya hilo? getting married is somewhat a business for them and no wonder kung bakit mataas ang percentage nila sa divorce around the world.
opps, out of the right place pala, korean wife means duties and a big sacrifice dahil na rin sa magiging kawawa nitong anak o mga anak, duty na magtiis kahit na may babae ang korean o not good in bed ang husband o hindi nagbibigay ng pera dahil kapag naghiwalay di naman sa babae mapupunta ang mga anak..picture matching kung papasok sa marriage is better than meeting a future husband or wife personally dahil isa na iyon sa life’s style ng korean. It is all wife’s responsibilities na maging ina at ama ng tahanan, that’s it. And it is true that having a job is dahilan para makatagal sya sa katotohan na tanggapin nya ang sitwasyon nya para sa mga anak. At iyon ang gusto ng mga korean na lalaki, tuktukhan yoja…
not ol koreans are bad..kya wg po ntin silang lhatin..en dont judge..tulad ntin tao din sila..merong msma en merong ndi..responsibilities?en sacrifice??xempre we need to that dhil asawa nila tau en my anak tau sknila..abusing filipinas??did u ask dem(the filipina)y are they abused by their korean husband?my mga ibang pinay kc na ndi p mkuntento sa asawa nla at nghahanap p ng iba..ndi ka sasaktan ng tao kung wla kang gngwa..i admit na dti nhihirapan ako..pero now..i learn..en ndi ka nmn pkakaslan ng korean kung ayaw mo din dba?en if u marry him..dat means he is ur husband..kya dpat lng na mgsacrifice ka..en sa mga kumkalat na msasama ang mga korea..dats not true..as i sed b4..tulad din ntin sila..my msma my ndi..bkit lhat ba ng pilipino mbabait??tska ung mga iba ndi lng ngkakaintindha bcoz of d language..u have to serve his family??nsasau un kung gagawin mo un..ndi k nmn pipiltin..en msma ba na serve mo sila??think…they’re ur husband parents..tska kya lng nmn halos lhat ng mga pilipino e tingin sa korean msma..bcoz of TSISMIS..npupulot nila kung san2x en den gingaya sinsbi ng iba..DONT REGRET EVRYTHING dat uve made..bcoz its ur desicion nmn kung bkit ka npunta dto..en his ur husband..dpat mo tlga xang mhalin..en nsasau rin nmn kung mgiging msya ka sknya or msma..BE CONTENTED..ngpksal ka sknia..mins dat u offer ur lyf en u give him a authority to love en be wid u forever..DONT JUDGE..not ol of dem are bad..not ol of dem also are gud..tignan muna ntin ung srili ntin b4 judging anybody..LIVE UR LYF TO D FULLEST..wg mo pansinin mga tao sa pligid mo..dey make a lil drama on their own..en d last..LOVE UR SELF EN UR FAMILY..kya s mga tao na wlang tgil na kung ano ano mga snsbi tungkol sa mga korean en their wifes..THINK first..is it true?is it a lie..kc hanggat ndi nio nkakasama ang isang tao ng mtgal en sa isang bubong..PLZ DONT JUDGE..EN U DONT HAVE A RYT..
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